Friday, October 31, 2008

Rabbit rabbit!

Happy Halloween! My Jamaican cab driver, leaving New York, said the most frightening costume he could think to dress up as would be the US Economy. I wonder if mrc will do it... I hope so! Even thought it's the first here, I didn't want to pass up the chance to wish you all a good time tonight. AND, I might add to cdr: I totally beat you this month, even if time is on my side :0)

I'm trying to absorb the tranquility offered here in Bor Sang today, since I know the rest of the trip will be much more action packed. Amongst the myriad birds and jungle sounds I can't help but indulge in some Wordsworth, I'll share the two I enjoy here and here.

Leaving here also means that I won't have easy or free internet access, so I will be on more sparsely... probably not until after the election! We will be in Laos by then, and are hoping to be up early Wednesday morning to watch it live. I've been reading a few papers, usually a day late, including The Bangkok Post, and the Herald Tribune. Yesterday, in the latter, there was an article about an anti-pornography bill passed in Indonesia that limits any act that could be interpreted as arousing, including public gestures, poetry, and drawings.

Also, in the same issue, an article noted that this week in South Korea a bill passed making adultery a jailable offense; on the same day a bill passed upholding the current law that only the legally blind can be practising masseuers. These two articles, while not surprising, made me think about how fortunate we are in the United States to have our freedoms, to speech and pursuit of happiness without the governement dictating what that can mean. It also made me all the more concerned about certain laws posing a threat to our freedoms as American citizens, and the importance of the seperation between church and state. We are so fortunate to have these rights, and the right to say we want a change is priceless in itself. Nothing new, but continually resonant, regardless.

Happy November, be safe tonight, and I'll be thinking of you on the Mekong.


Wednesday, October 29, 2008

this&that

Here are a few things I've learned since I have been here:

- The amount of timezones you jump is equivalent to the amount of days it takes you to adjust from jetlag.

- In Thailand, the spoon is used as a fork and the fork is used as a knife. It is just as strange to put a fork in your mouth in Thai culture as it would be for someone to eat with their knife. Also, chopsticks are only used with noodle soups.

- They are very proud of their king. You can't put currency with his image on it in your back pocket, nor should you lick a stamp with his image on it. There are sponges for that.

- On the other hand, some Thai ambassador's wife who is a famous socialite and is considered a beauty, looks like this:


















- It is entirely possible that God likes Thai food best because He made it the tastiest.

- Traditional Thai massage is unlike any massage I have ever had (and I have been around the massage block a few times). You lay on a mat on the floor, and are dressed in silk garments they provide. There are no pretensions: no music or aroma therapy, no fancy sitting rooms or procedure. They do, however, put their fingers in your ears at one point. And it helps if you're flexible.

- There are numerous opportunities to volunteer: their environment needs lots of help and they are desperate for teachers, who are much more highly respected than in the states (read: volunteer/job opportunities for Katy)!

- Many Europeans question the life expectancy of the dollar, since our economy is crap and we export next to nothing, those we import from are less likely to give the dollars back to us and instead put them in other investments.

- I also wonder why we think our government (who imposed the Patriot Act and was compliant with the Chinese in censoring the people's access to the internet) wouldn't censor our online accessibility. Limiting foreign criticisms and overall information about the U.S., like a reverse propaganda. Would it be so far fetched, when the majority of the internet developed under this administration? I mean China did it, why wouldn't G.W.? Even the BBC is totally watered down, American BBC. After learning what is common knowledge from a foreigner's point of view about our policies and politics, it seems more and more likely. I guess I'll find out soon enough...

Not bad for only leaving the premises once since I've been here... Pi cooks for us every night and every morning, with leftovers for lunch, and it is incredible. We ate in town once yesterday, but were sure to make it home by 7 in time for dinner!

We leave Saturday afternoon for Chiang Rai. Sunday we tour the Golden Triangle, on the Burmese border. Mai Sae, I think it's called. I guess it used to be the capital for opium production, which seems appropriate because I watched American Gangster on the way over here (which was Vietnam, I know, but still). Then we go down the Mekong!

Tonight we go to the night bazaar in Chiang Mai, which is about 20 minutes outside of Bor Sang (where we're staying). Peter takes us into town whenever we need to go... I have never had more gracious hosts in all of my travels. They are so incredibly helpful, and informative, always ready to assist -- call a friend to find out where to buy the best umbrellas or how to send packages, we mention once we like Tom Yum soup and it's homemade fresh by dinnertime. Granted we are paying them to stay here, but their kindness and generosity is above and beyond, to say the least. I am excited for the adventures to come, but I'll be sad to leave The Secret Garden.

Monday, October 27, 2008

Tangible Surrealism, aka: This Can't Be Real

Peter picks them up in his 2 seater, beater BMW from the 2 terminal airport outside of Chiang Mai. It was only a one hour flight from Bangkok, but they are still jet-lagged from the travels of the past 3 days.

The air is Hawaii-humid. Not the kind of dirty hot, makes you sweat to be outside city-humid, but the thick, moisture seems suspended mid-air humid, just like it seems in those movies about 'Nam.

When Peter picks them up, they're ready for him.

Not that Bangkok wasn't interesting, a fact neither was lucid enough to confirm, but they surmised after less than 24 hours in that anthill of city that they were made for something more, which of course meant something less.

Silently, he loads their bags in the back as they awkwardly thank him, and try to get in the drivers seat. He glares. They realize their mistake, and embarrassed at how American they seem, laugh too loud while correcting their mistake. Looking much like l'inspecteur Cousteau, but with the desire Albert Camus, he is not amused. He watches as they fumble first with the door and then the seat, until everyone is in and ready to go. So, they say. You're Peter. How long have you lived here? They begin with a question to which they already know the answer. He doesn't seem to notice, or else doesn't care to. Too long, he says. He shifts gears in the silence. Twenty five years. They do the math in their heads, 1982-1983. His answer goes unremarked. Shift. It was Mexico before this, and Spain before Mexico. Guadalara. He speaks as though reading a recipe: Start with a quiet land, with native peoples, add small amounts of tourists. Give it time. Years. The natives realize what is in demand, and figure out to make it for cheap, quickly. Eventually the people who know the trade, any trade, they die, and the young ones grow tired of the now tourist-run economy. They leave. Children never learned a craft, just to make money off the foreigners. What's left is a land raped and pregnant, wondering what the fuck just happened, how did I get here and who are you?

They have Guadalajara in common.

In the '70's, it's fresh and green and welcoming, now it's Hooters and Made In China and that's progress.

The road gets smaller like a car antennae erecting, each length smaller, thinner than the stretch before it. He tells them of his property, and becomes more animated as he does so. Slowly over many years, he and his wife Pi added plots of land when they got the money to add, and continued to build bungalows from local hand made materials, down to the individual tiles in the communal kitchen.

It pours rain.

Peter doesn't seem to notice. Even when they reach the Secret Garden, he gets out of the car without consequence, and if you think about the things that matter most, a little rain never hurt anybody.

The property is insular and safe, on the outskirt of the small town of the same quality. In the midst of overripe jungle overgrowth, it's not consumed by it's surroundings. The bungalows are made of dark wood, with beautiful ornate hand carved detail on the furniture and decks, further camouflaging the Secret. The ornaments that style each are completely unique, no two items were bought at the same time or place, making it feel like someone's home. In a way, they realize, it is. Immediately calmed upon entry, they feel they have been here before, but exhilleration and awe suggest otherwise. It's only after they run to take shelter from the rain under the gazebo that the loving nuance, the leftover travel tokens, a compiled shmorgasborg of antiques, culture, and influence are noticed. They now can see why he so passionately discussed the loss of culture in other countries he's lived. He may have added to this land, but he hasn't detracted. Assimilation is key.

They follow the lead of the 3 resident dogs, and get comfortable under the frond roof gazebo. It's not built to look like a palm frond roof, it legitimately is. It's not a manicured, man-made pond with lillypads and frogs, they were here long before Peter and Pi. It's not imported tile that makes the kitchen, designed by a hired professional, the people in town made them by hand and Peter placed them there himself. The octagonal entertainment center is where the eating, drinking, philosophizing, reading, and rumination takes place. For as rustic as this garden oasis is, they barely notice the surround sound Bose speakers that add jazz music as an afterthought. The music does not compete with the birds and insects who take the lead, and can only be heard in lulls. It's probably the only plastic on the property.

There are no more than 10 other bungalows, three of which are currently occupied and two by friends of the newly arrived. Sarah is garrulous, and can't resist explaining, in depth, the obvious: that this place is so unique in it's authenticity that it feels like being at home. She feels this so thoroughly she unintentionally refers to her rented bungalow as "her house."

It's good to be home.

Pi cooks everyday at 5:15, and serves diner at 7:30. Everything is made from local and organic ingredients, and it's obvious this would be the case even if Pi had the choice.

Compared to the 7/11 infestation in Bangkok, this place is outright rural.

Don't think Frances Hodgson Burnett had this in mind.

A breath of fresh air, with plenty more where that came from.

Peter pours them wine.

The only other two occupants are a couple who live here 6 month out of the year, from Europe. He from Holland, she from Belgium. Peter and Benny are drinking buddies, but they aren't even close to a perfect match: Benny drinks during the day, and Peter by night. This poses a problem and each provokes the other throughout the meal they all share. The travelers finally feel settled in. Family style servings lead to family style bickering, discussion, and comradery, and by the time coffee is ready, they're exchanging food and sharing life stories.

It's hard to believe it can get better than this.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

First* stop: Manila!

Well, here we are with 6 + hours to kill in Manila airport. The lounge has free wifi, so I thought I'd take advantage! Here is a run down of the last 22 hours. Apologies in advance if it's loopy, but aside from it being 8 something AM local time, I think you'll relate by the end. And keep in mind, there is only so much you can do on a 22 hour flight, especially being a repeat victim of elevation induced insomnia... Heregoes:

Friday 10/24, 6:30 pm: after reading on the e-ticket that it is recommended that all passengers arrive 3hrs prior to departure, dad rallies us an hour early to go to the airport. Good thing I packed that morning!

7:30 pm: arrive at LAX Bradley terminal, to hoards of people waiting to check in. I'm talking worse-than-the-line-for-Supreme-Scream-during-Knotts-Scary-Farm-crowded (lex, andrea and joc know what I'm talkin' 'bout!)... Heart momentarily stops before mom reminds me are flying business class. THANK GOD.

7:45: sipping champagne in "lounge," which is the rough equivalent to an office lobby - with lower ceilings (the one here in Manila is more like a glorified cafeteria). As for the food: I've seen better munchie selections at Chevron minimarts. But in all fairness, those places are extraordinary. Plus, hey- free champagne! We toast.

9:40: get ready to board, til it's announced that the flight is delayed an hour. Literally every review of PAL complained about delays, so I'm more amused than annoyed. Every time! They're late. Every Time. Ha. Must be the free champagne talking.

11:00: seated! Plane is 2 stories, and we're up top! Another first for me. This calls for more champagne. Start to wonder if I could smuggle some onto my next jet blue flight...

2:23 am: post dinner, pre-in flight entertainment, PA speaker: "now paging any passenger who is a doctor or medic. Please contact crew member immediately." See several people rush to front of our section. Great. I had chicken AND fish. Jiveassturkeys. Try to nonchalantly eavesdrop.

3am: ask for earplugs cause *someone* (names withheld) expected to snore.

3:08: Flight Attendant profusely apologizes for taking so long, but "someone else was sick downstairs." She lingers. I casually ask if it was something she ate, to which FA replies, "No. She is just on the verge of a heart attack. But way worse than the other one." She scuttles off. Cause that's what FAs do. Scuttle.

4:00 am: bypassed Hawaii... They must not be dead.

4:15 am: watch a passenger in front of me turn pink to red to purple struggling to get his seat to recline. Momentarily amused.

4:38 am: can still see Hawaii on the livemap, this is the longest flight ever.

4:41am: wonder if maybe earplugs and eye mask are in fact hindering my date with Mr. Sandman, since cloth clamped to my face and rubber shoved in my ears aren't typically conducive to a restful night's sleep, for me anyway.

4:45 am: revelation: airplanes are just time capsules in which it's occupants continually produce more CO2 to the already stale, recycled air, over the course of 22 hours. This thought has always kept me from sleeping comfortably on airplanes. Because, well, let's face it: people don't control their bodily functions when they sleep. Just one of them thangs. Confirmed by the gentleman to my left. Repeatedly.

7am: finally fell asleep, only after sleeping beauty to my left woke up and started talking to the FAs. Loudly. Up after 2.5 hrs.

*9:10: surprise! Before our scheduled stop in Manila, we're stopping in Guam for an "electrical layover" where we get to stay on the plane an hour, THEN to Manila. Sweet.

9:06 - 11:00 am: I see the equator on livemap, cool. Rotate between trashy magazines, Fight Club, and Don DeLilo... like changing channels. Land in Guam. Wonder if the "electrical layover" was more for the weak hearted ladies. Really, really glad we didn't have to turn around. Oh, and that they were ok, and whatnot.

12:10: turns out it's the 26th! October 25th, 2008 was spent entirely in the air. A first for me. Kinds neat. Wake up mom by *accidentally* elbowing her, feign surprise that she's up, then tell her about October 25th. We watch Hancock, where they replace "asshole" with "weirdo" and cut out not the fight scenes, but just the shots of physical contact. Really odd. Eat breakfast. First good meal of trip.

3:00 pm: final descent! Into our second layover, but first stop where we can get out and stretch. See a rainbow on way in, against the sunrise.

3:01 pm: it finally hits me that I'm beginning the trip of a lifetime.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Tonight's the night!


Here is our general itinerary, as I know it:

-Starting in Bangkok, for a few days, to sleep off jet lag and get acquainted.

-Then traveling up to Chiang Mai/Rai;

-Traveling down the Mekong River to Laos via boat, making stops in small villages along the way;

-Spend some time in Cambodia in Angkor Wat;

-Railay beach and Krabby, which both share the same coast as Ko Phi Phi (where Leo DiCaprio's movie The Beach was filmed);

-Back up to Bangkok, to end the trip before we fly back to LAX.

Sounds like a month's worth, but I know it will fly by! We're going to be near Phuket, where a dear family friend of ours was in 2004 when the Tsunami hit the coast (I use the term family friend so to speak, because the term doesn't quite translate the close relationship he and his family has to ours). It will be nice that we will be able to pay our respects. We will also be working with the Green Gecko Project for a couple days in Cambodia, and organization I am really looking forward to being a part of.

AND, just in case I decide to stay a little longer for any reason (heh heh), I am bringing only my trusty backpack... the very same one I used when traveling Europe, oh so long ago:




See you on the other side! xo

Endorsement

Since I will be gone November 4th, most of you will be happy to hear that this is the last thing I have to say about the upcoming election:

Thursday, October 23, 2008

ToDo

A list of things I still need to do in the 11th hour, in no particular order:

1. Buy brother birthday present;

2. Go to Target for random last minute purchases (tank tops, toothpaste, things to do on the plane such as this and this);

3. Go to In n' Out sometime between now and when I leave;

4. Take passport pictures for some reason that my mom can't explain because she's too exasperated from planning this whole trip by herself while I languorously watch tivo'd reruns of Colbert Report;

5. Make sure before completing #4 that I ask about it as though for the first time, preferably when she is a) on the phone, and b) in the other room;

6. Find out when my flight leaves tomorrow;

7. Give brother birthday present;

8. Find passport;

9. Ask my dad if I can borrow his car today;

10. Get on plane.


I think it's totally doable.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

literal splashdown


There are many apps ilike on my iphone, hicon is tops.

Made the decision to bring my iphone on my trip, hope I come back with it... it'll act as an ipod, and make it easier to take pictures (since I don't have my own camera). Most of you know how I have *impeccable* luck with technology. WE SHALL SEE!

& See we shall.

Monday, October 20, 2008

OPEN

Well I just started this and I am already behind ... typical.

Family was in New York visiting this last week, which allowed me to interact with the city in a new way...and now I'm much more OPEN!!!

Every night was booked. Highlighting the week of course were those events close to our collective family heart: The Calder exhibit opening at the Whitney, Dok and Raine's photography opening at the Morrison Hotel Gallery in SoHo, and g-pa's Broadway revival opening. Openopenopen. Unfortunately the de Wilde's and gramps' were on the same night, so the photog show had to be put on hold until the the day after the theater. Fine by me, because it felt more personal with our own "private" screening and we were able to take up a significant part of the gallery, freely. The Morrison Hotel Gallery is a lovely loft space in the village, not to mention the pictues that fill it. I recognized family friends in some of the photos from the '60's ... and meekly peeked/voraciously scanned each "Love-In" and concert picture to make sure my parents weren't in them. They weren't... I don't think. The collection was incredible, and the photographs nicely intertwined helixically in theme and feeling, despite their obvious linear progression in time. Guess apples really don't fall far from their tree :)

All in all, a terrific week, a nice and high note to end on in New York. Saw family & friends, and as always, not enough of each. I am really glad that everyone was able to come hang out, because even though I am only gone for a handful of weeks, I always want to see as much of you guys as I can. And, if I have to bribe with a bon voyage, so be it. So WEST COAST: ready or not, here I am.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

So, I started a blog.

For those who know me, you've probably already pontificated, "Wow. Really? What a hypocrite. This is the last thing I'd expect from her. I knew she liked to write, but a blooooog?"

It's true! I have always *insinuated* that blogging is self-indulgent. A sort of reverse voyeurism through which egomaniacs publicly parade his/her micromanaged image in efforts of selling themselves to the unseen public (exempt, of course, are the blogs I frequent daily).

Or, that is what the younger version of me felt. I now am now several hours older, and have found my very own niche in this webloggersphere to which we now are all so connected. The point of my blog, dear friends and passersby, is to make your life easier! In lieu of sending mass emails and bombarding your in-boxes with minutiae that would only satisfy the extremely bored, I will put it all on one place... for the extremely bored. Simply, to have a place to document thoughts during my travels, to write down my insights, should I have any, and my impressions of South East Asia.

Here it is to enjoy, laugh at, cry with, question aloud and pour over. Or not. See that? I'm giving you options :o) So, the blog is here, "up and running," as we web people say (don't worry, you'll catch on). And with that, I bid you all ~ adieu. Oops! I mean "lah gorn."